Finding Comfort and Peace

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I have been temporarily absent from my blog due to a tragic event in our family. There are no answers when life as we know it changes forever and is replaced by loss and unbearable sadness.

It is said the worst nightmare of a parent is to bury a child.  I cannot imagine anything more difficult in life to bear, especially after seeing the utter devastation on the faces of my brother Alan and his wife Ellen as their beloved only daughter Lisa was buried recently in New York.  Blake, and twins Amanda and Matthew lost their mother.  Christopher lost his only sister.  There are no words.

At the funeral, a card was available in memory of Lisa with the following poem:

I’d like the memory of me to be a happy one.
I’d like to leave an afterglow of smiles when day is done.
I’d like to leave an echo whispering softly down the ways,
of happy times and bright and sunny days.
I’d like the tears of those who grieve to dry before the sun,
of happy memories that I leave behind when day is done.

Lisa was born when I was in high school, and my favorite memories of her were going to the park to play. This is the sweet little face of Lisa that I will remember forever.

Lisa and me

Rest in peace, Lisa.  You were very much loved by many.


18 Responses to Finding Comfort and Peace

  1. March 22, 2016 at 12:10 pm #

    What a beautiful tribute, Debbie. So sorry about your dear Lisa. The poem is perfect and I’m saving it. Thinking about all of you.

    • March 22, 2016 at 12:22 pm #

      Thank you, Janice. All I wish for is comfort for my brother and sister-in-law. Parents should never have to bury their children.

  2. March 22, 2016 at 2:21 pm #

    Dear Debbie, I am so sorry for your family’s loss. I have 2 sets of friends in the States that have had to bury children. One of them was Taylor Force , the young man who was stabbed to death by a Palestinian terrorist while on a University trip to Israel. It is a most difficult thing! Thoughts and prayers for all of you>

    • March 22, 2016 at 2:35 pm #

      Thank you, Emma. What a tragic loss for your friends. I’m still not sure how parents get through it.

  3. March 22, 2016 at 2:27 pm #

    I am so very sorry for the loss of your dear niece. I dread this kind of news. No parent belongs in this club.

    This is a most wonderful post to celebrate and never forget Lisa. I am holding you and her family in my heart and thoughts.

    • March 22, 2016 at 2:43 pm #

      Lisa, thank you for the heartfelt advice you offered last week. You have helped so many people who have been through the devastation that you suffered too.

  4. March 22, 2016 at 3:13 pm #

    So sorry for your loss Debbie. Sending prayers up for you and your family.

    • March 22, 2016 at 7:47 pm #

      Thank you, Amy.

  5. March 22, 2016 at 8:10 pm #

    I can’t imagine anything more devastating either, Debbie. Hugs and prayers for you and your family.

    • March 22, 2016 at 10:23 pm #

      Thank you, Patrice.

  6. March 23, 2016 at 8:09 am #

    What tragic news and what a beautiful tribute to your much beloved Lisa. Thank you for sharing her with us. May you find peace and joy in all your memories together and in the assurance of God’s love and grace. Sending a big hug!

    • March 25, 2016 at 11:59 am #

      Thank you, Kim. I’ll talk to you soon.

  7. March 23, 2016 at 10:08 am #

    Thank you, dearest Sister. This is the hardest thing Alan and I have ever done. But your thoughtful words and compassion are very comforting. Thank you for all your prayers and to those who have replayed to this post. God bless all of you. Ellen Kidd

    • March 25, 2016 at 11:59 am #

      I love you both so much. Always in my thoughts and prayers.

  8. March 25, 2016 at 4:20 pm #

    Debbie, I’ve been thinking about you and your family since you posted the news. I am so sorry for your loss and hope you find comfort when you think about her life and how special she was to everyone around her.

    • March 26, 2016 at 1:17 am #

      Thank you for the kind words, Anna.

  9. March 27, 2016 at 2:01 pm #

    I’m heartbroken for you and your family. I pray for strength and that you are able to experience comfort in the special times that you two shared.

    • March 27, 2016 at 2:27 pm #

      Thank you so much, Beth.

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